Why are women still expected to "stay in their lane"? Tamsen sits down with Stacy London—co-host of What Not to Wear, style icon, Author and CEO to unpack the emotional toll of high-functioning depression and why talking about menopause feels like career suicide.
Stacy gets vulnerable, sharing why community and friendship are more essential than having a partner, and how to let go of outdated identities. Together, they dive into the messy, transformative beauty of midlife, exploring the unspoken truths about living in fear, reinvention, and how clinging to old clothes can keep you stuck. Stacy opens up about closing her business, redefining success at 55, and why evolution means saying yes, even when it’s uncomfortable. Stacy shares her expert advice on getting comfortable with your naked body in the mirror is the key to personal freedom and good style. If you’ve ever wondered if your best years are behind you, this episode is here to tell you: absolutely not!
What You'll Learn:
- How to break free from the social pressure to stay in your lane
- Why community and friendship are more important than romantic relationships
- Curating a new wardrobe that reflects your body now
- Why holding onto old clothes is psychological torture
- Success isn’t defined by titles, possessions, or external validation
- Why women need to talk more openly about money.
- How fear keeps you stuck and why getting older is the perfect time to be braver
- Why it’s never too late to reinvent yourself
- How to let go of the "expiration date" mindset
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Stacy London
Why are women still expected to "stay in their lane"? Tamsen sits down with Stacy London—co-host of What Not to Wear, style icon, Author and CEO to unpack the emotional toll of high-functioning depression and why talking about menopause feels like career suicide.
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01:05 - Performing Confidence on What Not to Wear
03:42 - The Shame, Fear, and Loss of Identity
07:10 - “I Wish I’d Known How Low My Self-Esteem Was”
10:20 - The Emotional Weight of Getting Dressed
13:05 - The Closet as a Mirror: What No Longer Fits
15:20 - “Everyone Knew You as Style, Style, Style”
17:00 - What Reinvention Really Looks Like
19:25 - Helping Women Rebuild Confidence Through Style
22:40 - Dressing for Who You Are Now
25:10 - The Truth About Identity and Change
28:00 - Stacey’s Advice for Women in Transition
30:15 - Final Thoughts: It’s Not About Clothes—It’s About You






