Tamsen Fadal sits down and teaches you what she’s learned about dating, from running a matchmaking business in New York City, to dating through her 20s and 30s, to divorce, and starting over in midlife.
In this episode, she walks you through the 4 biggest dating mistakes women make. The ones that keep smart, self-aware women repeating the same patterns, settling, or wondering why they keep dating the wrong men.
This is about understanding why these mistakes happen and walking away with tools to stop repeating them.
You’ll learn:
- Why dating for validation feels tempting and how to shift toward real connection
- How timelines and panic dating push you to ignore red flags
- Why dating someone’s potential keeps you stuck and what to look for instead
- How women slowly disappear in relationships and how to stay fully yourself
By the end of this episode you’ll see dating with more clarity, more self-trust, and more emotional safety. You’ll have a clearer sense of what’s been holding you back and how to start choosing relationships that actually support who you are.
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Tamsen Fadal sits down and teaches you what she’s learned about dating, from running a matchmaking business in New York City, to dating through her 20s and 30s, to divorce, and starting over in midlife.
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0:00 Intro
01:16 Tamsen's Dating History and the Patterns She Had to Face
03:11 Mistake #1: Dating for Validation Instead of Connection
04:29 Non-Negotiables, Checking In, and Flipping the Question
6:10 Mistake #2: Dating With a Timeline Instead of Trust
7:50 Replacing the Dating Timeline With a Compass
12:23 Mistake #4: Dating Someone’s Potential Instead of Reality
14:20 Breaking the Pattern with the Forever Question
17:34 Mistake #4: Losing Yourself in a Relationship
18:45 3 Ways to Maintain Your Identity in a Relationship











