The trick to gaining confidence

My stylist put me in a short utility skort recently and I looked at her like she had completely lost her mind. 

I am 55 years old. I have not worn anything that short since a time I would rather not think about. And she just looked back at me with total confidence and said trust me.

She was right.

I have never felt more like myself in a piece of clothing in awhile. There is something about wearing something you thought wasn't for you anymore and realizing it absolutely is that does something to your whole energy.

It got me thinking about all the things I have added to my life lately that I didn't expect to love as much as I do…

The brighter lip color I wear on a random Tuesday because why not. 

The perfume I spritz before I get on a Zoom call when nobody can even smell me. 

The skincare routine I actually look forward to at night. 

The pieces I bought after my closet clean out that feel like the woman I am right now instead of the woman I used to be (be sure to follow me on TikTok because I have so many more parts to this series coming up).

I share all of this because I had a conversation this week that made me think about confidence in a completely different way.

My cousin Shannon Elizabeth came into the studio and sat down with me for the first time ever with a microphone between us. 

You know her as Nadia from American Pie, the it girl of the early 2000s.  t

What you probably don't know is that she has spent most of her career staying extremely private. She watched creator culture explode around her for years and stayed on the sidelines on purpose.

We grew up together at our grandmother's house, we have been through divorces, and career changes side by side. And even I did not fully know her story until we sat down on The Tamsen Show.

She described her 30s and 40s as not her best years, and now in her 50s she is stepping into something she has never done before and making a very public announcement about it. I will let her tell you herself…

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