A Divorce Attorney’s Guide to Leaving a Narcissist
Divorce is already disorienting.
But when you’re dealing with a narcissist, the rules change and most people don’t realize that until they’re already in it.
In this episode, Tamsen is joined by Sue Moss, a leading NYC divorce attorney, to talk about what actually happens when control, manipulation, and power dynamics show up in a divorce and what women need to understand before things escalate.
They discuss:
- The early red flags of a controlling or narcissistic partner
- Why so many women feel blindsided when divorce turns adversarial
- What prenups really protect and when they matter most
- How power, money, and fear show up in divorce negotiations
- The biggest legal mistakes women make when emotions are running high
- How custody decisions actually get made (and what courts care about)
- What women should be thinking about long before they ever file
This conversation is eye-opening, especially if you’re questioning your marriage, supporting a friend through divorce, or trying to understand your options before things escalate.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence or feels unsafe, help is available.
In the U.S., you can call or text 988 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).
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Sue Moss
Tamsen is joined by Sue Moss, a leading NYC divorce attorney, to talk about what actually happens when control, manipulation, and power dynamics show up in a divorce and what women need to understand before things escalate.
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medical disclaimer:
The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show.
00:00 Intro
03:43 The Domestic Violence Case That Changed Sue Moss’s Career
05:10 Why Spousal Support is Disappearing and What Women Need to Know
10:50 What’s Fueling the Rise in Divorce During Menopause
13:09 When In-Laws Hijack the Divorce and How to Take Back Control
15:04 Should You Stay for the Kids? The Truth About What Children Really Learn
16:51 Emotional Abuse and Narcissists and How They Rent Space in Your Head
22:03 Do You Really Need a Prenup? What to Know Before Saying “I Do”
28:35 Escaping a Narcissistic Marriage in Small, Safe Steps
37:14 Can’t Afford a Lawyer? Real Options for Women Facing Divorce Alone
